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Book Club – Reimagined

When I wanted to start an empowering women’s book club I emailed about ten of the ladies in my life that had showed some interest in diving deeper into Brene’ Brown’s work, Daring Greatly. Who responded? Two women. One who I was recently reacquainted with (see earlier post on Duct Tape) and one who many had said “you and her should be friends.” So not exactly who I thought. We met the first time and wow. It was like we had been together for years. The club quickly and affectionately became known as “Wine Club” with books. We started reading books about business and sharing our many lessons learned on our hard-fought journey toward self-acceptance and living in larger bodies. All of us agreed about a year in we should host a daylong retreat to create space for women to investigate the way they talk about and treat their bodies.

The lesson for me in this was- the book club was not what I expected. Driving to the first meeting I felt disappointed and somewhat a failure for not getting enough interest. I think I even opened the meeting with “I’m Sorry…” My achilles heal of self-love, blaming myself. That is when the lovely red head next to me said, “Why are you sorry, the right people are here.” Period end of story.

Is there a community you are hoping to create? What’s stopping you? It might not look like you envisioned, and that might be the best thing about it.



I have started taking selfies… but not the usual ones, laughing, eating something strange or my feet at the beach. I am trying to create rituals & practices to create a best friendship with myself.

My internal critic has been a powerful, loud and mean part of my internal monolog for years.  Trying to shut her up has been a process.  My best way of coping and quieting her – is to create rituals that give me proof that she lies.

For years, I just decided I didn’t need to be in any photo’s because I was less than.  How strange is that?  It is humbling to set down the word weapons you use against yourself.

Changing the Voice with these two amazing online resources – http://www.viviennemcmasterphotography.com/be-your-own-beloved/ & a Facebook group called We were there, too.  About how Momma’s need pictures with their children.

This photo pictures me with a halo of art.  I love that it shows me as I was at the time.  It is a grieving picture for me.